‘Its wrong for parents to do spiritual background check for your spouse before getting married’ – Nigerian writer, Tope Delano

So there’s this trending question on Nigerian twitter that says, ‘Is it advisable or proper for your parents to help do a spiritual background check of your potential spouse before you get married to them”

Now, writer and music critic Tope Delano, has reacted to the tweet by sharing a personal story to butress her point.

Read below…

This right here is the reason so many humans are LOCKED marriages they shouldn’t be in, in the first place.

As. Yoruba girl, my people believe so much in this…’oh, we have to pray and find out of he or she is the one.’ in my language they say it is ‘ama lo wo boya oko e Ni. I laugh in hiccups.

I have absolutely no issues with prayers and all but I deeply do not believe this is necessary and this is why.

Sometime in the early 2000’s I was seeing this young man, who was just about amazing, when I say amzing, he was. Spiritual, not the spirikoko type, kind, deeply read, he is just a beautiful soul. But then we were hit with the he is not your husband talk.

You guys will never have kids should you get married. I heard things like he will die early or you would….bla bla bla…we went our different ways….bad move!!!! Marriage is between two people, two humans who live their lives as one, away from people who have one thing or the other to say about y u shouldn’t be together.

Personally, I believe these two humans should be the one to seek God’s face respectively. Ask God Al the necessary questions not someone who won’t b in the house with u, doing it
What if the pastor they went to meet tells u the wrong person is the right one?

What if that one they claim is ur oko dies the night of your wedding, or weeks, months, later? What if he turns into an abusive person who greets u in the morning with a slap or a kick or harsh words.

While they are searching for spiritual answers, is anyone searching for emotional and psychological stability answers on ur behalf as well? I am a Stupid Yoruba GIrl, I know…but it’s high time we all calm d fuck down, think things through properly before signing those papers in court.

Prayer is key in any relationship, however do it on your own and with ur partner if u must

Source: http://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2018/2/its-wrong-for-parents-to-do-spiritual-background-check-for-your-spouse-before-getting-married-nigerian-writer-tope-delano.html


  1. FAITH ADJOBOEFE1 week agoReply

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  2. Misterb1 week agoReply

    It isn’t wrong at all,every parent want the good for their children

  3. Dking1 week agoReply

    This post is very informative and very very good to the public

  4. Mudi Abubakar1 week agoReply

    Very very wrong my dear, most of these abnormal attitude is common in this country as a whole

  5. Baaki Terlumun Fidelis1 week agoReply

    Every day comes with news that can inform humanity about happenings around the world

  6. Endurance Udeh1 week agoReply

    Depends o! If you are a Christian and your parents are pagan, it’s very wrong to do so

  7. Waheed Ajagbe1 week agoReply

    I don’t believe in this spiritual check, in doing so they may invite unforeseen problems into the marriage cos not everybody is happy with the union

  8. nathaniel1 week agoReply

    it is not necessary some mighty form to be very spiritual before every one but after marriage you see that he or she was only doing that to cover up so I do not see it need

  9. Olowu Ibitayo1 week agoReply

    It isn’t wrong at all,every parent want the good for their children

  10. Ajisekola Damilola1 week agoReply

    yes, I like the way the article was concluded, the big deal in any relationship is prayers, you are the prophet of yourself talk to god he will direct you

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