Renowned Nigerian dancer, Kaffy, has spoken about the challenges she continues to face in her personal life since her divorce.
In a recent interview on Honest Bunch Podcast, posted on X on Sunday, the 45-year-old choreographer revealed that many men shy away from her because she is a single mother of two, adding that societal prejudice often makes divorced women appear less desirable.
Kaffy questioned the mindset that views single mothers as unworthy partners, pointing out that divorce does not diminish a person’s value.
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She also stressed that divorced individuals who have worked on themselves may be even better candidates for lasting relationships than those who have never married.
“I’ve had somebody tell me because I’m a single mother, I can’t even think about dating me because I have two children,” she said.
“99% of the people that criticize me about my marriage are either not married today or have left their marriages. What makes you think that a woman that has been divorced is not even the better candidate? If she has worked on herself, what is the guarantee that the two single people today are not both going to be divorced people tomorrow?”
Kaffy highlighted the high divorce rate in society, noting that love should bring stability rather than anxiety.
“Because why are people feeling like, I need to marry him fresh and I need to marry her fresh? But both of you are going into the same data that the world has computed for you. There are over 70% of marriages crashed. You are part of the 70%.
“There’s just so many stuff. Do you know that a lot of butterfly in the tummy is a trauma response? Real love brings peace, not butterflies. Real love is not supposed to make you anxious. You shouldn’t be with… I can imagine Daddy Freeze now, as he’s here now, and he’s thinking about what Taste Buds is doing in the house. He’s at peace.”
The dance queen further revealed that she is still healing from the emotional toll of her failed marriage and the stigma that followed.
“I’m still healing from those anxious feelings because the moment I feel like I killed this I’m like, why would you do this to me? I’m 45, but I’ve spent the last 10 years of my adult life trying to fix it. My children were looking at us and I’m like, go. If you have to leave. Oh, really? Oh, yeah. You think I’m irresponsible?”
“I know how responsible I am as a woman. I don’t sleep around. I don’t do casual stuff. I heard even the, after I used him, his youth, after I used him to collect children, my IVF champion, because I don’t understand…”
