5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

Being with someone for a long time changes the way you see the world. It also changes you. These are the 5 things that happen to couples who have shared a lot experience and have been together for a long time.

1. You start to look alike

5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

In a study, psychologist Robert Zajonc found that there’s a very obvious reason that married couples who stay together start to look alike: They use the same muscles so often that, over time, they start to mirror each other.

5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

This coordination of movement isn’t accidental. Instead, it reflects what psychologists call a ‘shared coordinative structure,’ which includes how we harmonize our gaze, body sway, and the little mannerisms and idiosyncrasies of how we speak.

2. You have a bunch of inside jokes that no one else thinks are funny

5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

Research suggests that couples who’ve been together for a long time are more likely to mirror each other’s body language — which in turn makes them look alike. All of your shared experiences and memories inform your gestures, posture, and the words and phrases you use with each other.

A study, for example, found that people were more likely to copy each other’s eye gaze when they’d both heard the same background information before their conversation.

3. You and your partner develop your own private language

5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

Ever get a text from your significant other that means absolutely nothing on its own but carries a certain significance that you can’t quite explain?

5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

This private language is one of the first signs that the two of you are operating in sync. Secret communication accomplishes two things: First, it helps deepen your bond — romantic or platonic. Second, it establishes a unique, shared identity.

Private language can include everything from inside jokes to nicknames. Bruess’ research suggests a link between how often partners use these private words and how satisfied they are with their relationship. Bruess found that the more often couples used secret words and phrases, the happier they tended to say they were.

4. You start to sound alike

5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

In addition to having their own private vocabulary, long-term couples eventually start to match each other in the basic rhythms and syntactical structures of their speech.

5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

Part of that is a result of a phenomenon that psychologists call “emotional contagion.” Basically, when two people spend enough time together, they begin to match each other’s speech patterns. We mimic everything from the other person’s accent to the amount and length of pauses he or she put between words and sentences.

5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

Part of a 2010 study of language use among couples that looked at couples’ text messages, for example, found that when two people “sounded” more alike they were also more likely to still be dating three months later.

5. You stop self-censoring

5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

When we’re with others, most of us “self-monitor.” That is, we try to please the people around us by adapting our behavior to suit theirs. But when we’re with an intimate partner, we let go of this pattern of behavior and instead talk fluidly and naturally. In other words, we stop having to constantly check ourselves before we speak. We’re more candid and more open.

5 Things That Happen To Couples Who Have Been Together For a Long Time

The University of California Berkeley psychologist Daniel Kahneman, for example, tells “Like most people, I am somewhat cautious about exposing tentative thoughts to others.” But after he’d spent a few years working with his research partner, cognitive psychologist Amos Tverksy, “this caution was completely absent.”

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  1. Babafemi Ajayi2 weeks agoReply

    very right, but this only happens when there are nothing else attached to the relationship like a mate cheating on the other

    • frank akobundu1 week ago

      No!!….your wrong, I have been with someone for a long time. But we are not together now. But I still have 4% of her accent

  2. deprince52212 weeks agoReply

    Lolz, it is actually the truth, the one I know is they look alike and develop signs of communicating

  3. Jamesbright282 weeks agoReply

    This coordination of movement isn’t accidental. Relationship also deserve respect

  4. BridgesAdel2 weeks agoReply

    Its very true..recently people have been asking my boyfriend and I if we’re siblings and his friends are saying he’s beginning to walk like me and whenever there’s something on my mind and I wanna say it he blurts the same thing out right before i open my mouth..crazy right?

  5. Christybest2 weeks agoReply

    Exactly,the last point :self sensoring almost every couple does so. Trying to hide their flaws in public

  6. Sunday Evweikama2 weeks agoReply

    This is perfect writeup when two of you understand each order.

  7. Joseph Omojevwe2 weeks agoReply

    their love for each other gets stronger as their relationship gets longer

  8. Pamus2 weeks agoReply

    Stating the obvious of a perfect couple. I completely agree

  9. Pelight2 weeks agoReply

    Exactly what he said true he made point there he’s a wise man

  10. Omodolapo Ariyo2 weeks agoReply

    This is absolutely right that number one is very common among them

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